Why You Shouldn’t Train With Your Boyfriend

​Training with your boyfriend is holding you back.​ Sorry to burst your bubble girlfriend, but your couples workouts just don't work.

Sounds crazy, right? I mean, you could definitely do with some guidance in the weights room, because let’s be honest,​ you've been spending waaay too much time on the treadmill… ​And that ain’t gonna help you grow that booty.

Plus, he’s buff and he knows his way around the gym, so it’s the perfect way for you spend more time together and get fit. Win-win.

After all, ‘couples who train together, stay together’, right? Well, not always…

It’s time to rethink that gym date. Read on, for the low down on couples workouts:

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​Do Men Really Know Their Stuff?

shirtless man with dumbbells

​​​Sure, they’ve lifted a few dumbbells in their time. They know the difference between WPI and BCAA. They’ve even got a training diary for christ’s sake!

But does that mean you’ll get results with them doing a couples workout? Probably not.

And here’s why…

I’m firmly opposed to couples workouts. Sounds crazy, right? I mean, you could definitely do with some guidance in the weights room because, let’s be honest, the treadmill is the only piece of gym equipment you actually know how to use properly… But that ain’t gonna help you grow that booty.

Plus, he’s buff and he knows his way around the gym, so it’s the perfect way for you spend more time together and get fit. Win-win.

After all, ‘couples who train together, stay together’, right? Well, not always…

It’s time to rethink that gym date. Read on for the low down on couples workouts:

Men Don’t Have The Anatomy Of A Female

female silhouette made of glass

Ok, Captain Obvious. While this might be a no-brainer, it’s worth mentioning as the #1 reason why ​training with your boyfriend is killing your gains.

Put simply, men might know how to train themselves, but they have ZERO clue how to sculpt a female body… especially when it comes to growing those glutes


Even if your other half is a personal trainer by trade, you still shouldn’t train with him. Because while he might know his text book stuff, being in tune with the female body, is something that only a fellow female can relate to.

Yes, our bodies are different anatomically, but we also have to contend with hormone fluctuations and menstrual cycles… and when you throw that into the mix, things can get a little tricky for our male counterparts.

Which leads me onto the next point:

​Men Don’t Know What Woman Want

Men and women have very different body goals when it comes to sculpting our limbs in the gym.

You want to look like a fit Lara Croft. He wants to emulate Arnie circa 1974. See the problem?

I’m a big advocate of whole body strength training (yes, that means training your back, too ladies) but as a female, we want to hone in on our womanly assets and target our problem areas.

I’m talking booty, abs & thighs. Am I right?

Chances are hubby has a big hulk-like back and bulging biceps. But does he know the
best way to get a bigger butt without bulking up your thighs? I think not.

And how about the best activation exercises to build a fuller, rounder & perkier butt? Hmm… Or, does he know how to get a toned, flat tummy without thickening your waist?

Which is why the following point is so important…

​You ​Miss Out On Your Specific Needs

To get real results and those Coke bottle curves, you need to be on a targeted program with goal specific exercises that suits your unique needs. Doing the same workouts as your partner, will be doing you no favours.

I bet he missed the memo on ‘operation grow-a-booty’ and had you doing bench press like a bro. 

Eek! I don’t know about you, but defined pecs is NOT something I aspire to have (to each their own, of course - whatever floats your boat). But I’d like to keep every little bit of womanly bosom I can #hellofitnessbyebyeboobies ...which is why I NEVER specifically train my chest​.


You see, building a fit hourglass figure isn’t as simple as just throwing some iron around. We respond to different training stimulus compared to our male counterparts. So let’s put this myth to rest once and for all, because…

Lifting weights doesn’t make you manly, training like a man makes you manly.

You Lose Out On ‘Me’ Time

woman stretching outdoors

Don’t underestimate this one. It’s last in the list for very good reason.

Because part of lifting weights is that it’s a time to ‘zone out & zen out’. You have to be laser focused to get the best results.
Solo training and focused mind-muscle connection will take your progress to new heights. It requires you to become really in-tune with your own body, which is hard to do when you’re partnered up during your workout - especially with the one you love.

Plus, it’s empowering af to truly become the master of your body and start owning the weights room like a boss. I encourage every single one of you to adopt this mantra when you step into the gym, ready to smash your workout:

“Who run the world? GIRLS”. Yes, Queen Bey. YES!

But aside from the physical gains of lifting weights solo, the real benefit is how it affects your mental well being. It’s a form of meditation and a chance to let go of any negativity you may have been holding onto throughout the day. Nothing cures a bad day like popping the headphones in, whacking a bit of Beyonce on and sweating it out with a solid booty workout.

Training With Your Boyfriend In A Nutshell

  • ​Men have male anatomy, women have female anatomy... duh.
  • ​​Guys ​don't know how to accentuate the female body & sculpt curves.
  • ​They focus on bench press & bicep curls, but you should focus on booty!
  • ​You shouldn't train in the same way, if you want to sculpt hourglass curves.
  • ​Your workouts should be laser focused to hone your mind-muscle connection
  • ​​Don't get distracted! Focus on 'me' time & get confident going solo!
Sure, they’ve lifted a few dumbbells in their time. They know the difference between WPI and BCAA. They’ve even got a training diary for christ’s sake!

But does that mean you’ll get results with them doing a couples workout? Probably not.

And here’s why…